Family · Food

New Year’s Day Menu

We traditionally have the same meal every New Year’s Day:

Corned beef, brown butter braised cabbage and onions, black-eyed peas with hog jowl, and white rice.

 

However, the only part of the meal that I was aware had any meaning for the New Year were the black-eyed peas. When I was growing up the menu wasn’t as specific as it is today, but my mom always served black-eyed peas and hog jowl, which she claimed brought good luck in the coming year. So this year I did a little research on whether certain foods were supposed to bring good luck for the New Year and why. This is what I learned:

Traditionally, in the American South, pork, black-eyed peas, greens, rice (Hoppin’ John), and cornbread are served for New Year’s Eve. Pigs are said symbolize progress because these animals never move backward, they always root forward. Some say the richness of the pork fat will make you rich in happiness. Black-eyed peas are considered good luck due to their penny-like appearance, their abundance, the fact that they swell when cooked, and are therefore a symbol of monetary growth. People eat green leafy vegetables (collard greens, kale, cabbage) on New Year’s Day because their color and appearance resembles paper cash. The belief is, the more you eat the more prosperous you will be (and the healthier, too!). In many cultures grains like rice, quinoa, and barley represent abundance, and noodles represent long life. Cornbread’s golden color represents gold and wealth.

I personally don’t care for cornbread so I don’t serve it. And I prefer my “Hoppin’ John” deconstructed. I cook my black-eyed peas with hog jowl to incorporate pork into the meal but I prefer corned beef as my main protein. Its saltiness is the perfect accompaniment to the milder peas and rice and I add a dash of vinegar to my cabbage to heighten the taste experience.

Growing up in Indiana I never knew that our New Year’s tradition of black-eyed peas and hog jowl followed Southern tradition. But I guess it makes sense, as my parents were both raised in Arkansas. And when I added cabbage and rice to the meal, I was unaware of the traditional meal called Hoppin’ John. I can find no mention of corned beef bringing any luck to any nationality for the New Year, but it sure tastes good (maybe I can blame my husband’s Irish heritage for that one).

As you know I love the idea of eating the leftovers of a holiday meal in their entirety the following day, it’s a meal too good to eat just once. In the Southern tradition, on the day after New Year’s Day, leftover “Hoppin’ John” becomes “Skippin’ Jenny,” meant to demonstrate frugality and promote prosperity in the New Year. Who knew I was following southern tradition all along?

 

Family · Uncategorized

Family

Family, in its strictest definition according to Merriam-Webster, means: “a group of people who are related to each other.” This relationship can be through blood or marriage (a nuclear family) or it can mean a whole lot more and in some cases can include a large number of people (extended family). Families are held together by shared beliefs, values, and traditions. Thus your “church family” may fit perfectly into this part of the definition. Common experiences and activities can also join families together thereby possibly adding co-workers, neighbors, or team members to your extended family. But the biggest thing that family is supposed to provide is unconditional, non-judgmental support. That’s a biggie and one that even flesh and blood families struggle with frequently.

 

The truth is, you’re supposed to be there for your family in good times and in bad, whether it is convenient or easy for you to do or not. That is a fact that most of us forget in today’s world, where we are all very self-centered and often forget to think about how our actions may affect others.

 

In the broadest sense of the term, a family member is someone you love and can count on, who is always there for you, no matter what, and vice versa. Sometimes the most supportive person in your life doesn’t fit the definition of nuclear family at all, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t family. It’s just a different kind of family. And sometimes that support person is an actual nuclear family member, as it is for me. Early in our lives, that person is usually a parent (who we all know will do just about anything to help their child). But as we (and our parents) grow older we find that that support is not as strong as it used to be. That what once was a one-way street of us coming to them is now a two way street with support being given in both directions and eventually we become that support for our parents. During these times of change we need someone else to turn to, someone who will give us their undivided attention and support, and we in turn give them ours. Often, it is someone who, in fact, has always been there for us but was overshadowed by the powerful “protection” of our parent(s). This person is usually a sibling if you’re lucky (and I am) and eventually a spouse. They become the family you depend on most. And sometimes it’s hard for that sibling who was “the one” for the first 20+ years of your life to take a backseat or even a shared seat with the spouse who is now your number one family member. The problem arises when that rock of support lets us down because they’re wrapped up in their own lives or we let them down for the same reasons. Even if you’ve always been there for each other you sometimes forget that that nonjudgmental unwavering support is still always there.

 

My sister and I have been through an awful lot together, some good and some bad. I know that there have been many times that she has felt that I have let her down, just as there are a few that I can remember when she failed me.

 

The point is that my sister and I have always found a way to make time for each other for the big problems, but with our busy lives I’m afraid we’ve been ignoring the smaller problems (even though they’re no less important). We seem to have trouble communicating over a distance of 725 miles, even with the modern conveniences of cell phones, email, texting, face time, etc. We can talk and joke about the day-to-day stuff, but we’ve yet to have a heart to heart talk about all the little things that keep us from being as close as we once were. I’ll be there for her as long as I am able and I think she knows that. And I know that she’ll be there for me.

 

Unfortunately we usually take those people who are closest to us for granted. We think because they’ve always been there for us that they always will. When we’re in a tight spot, it’s easier to put off/out our most enduring family member and expect them to forgive and forget. And sometimes, due to life’s circumstances, it’s harder for that person who has always been there to be the punching bag and take the hit in order to make life easier for the other.

 

But family will always be family and we have to find a way to get along (sometimes love isn’t enough) because without each other family doesn’t exist. So this holiday season I hope you take the time to forgive and forget those (petty) disagreements you’ve had with your family (both nuclear and extended) and remember that life can change in an instant. Let go of your grudges and wounded pride and tell them how you feel. Open the lines of communication and talk about it. No one wants to leave this world full of stress and regret. And you certainly don’t want to carry the regret of things unsaid and time not spent with a loved one after they’ve passed on.

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Wellness Wednesday: Neti Pot or Not?

Only 3 & ½ months into the school year and it’s already hit us. That’s right, the dreaded cold season, runny nose, congestion, cough… As a pharmacist I have an entire collection of treatments both prescription and over-the-counter at my fingertips. So we started on our anti-histamines for the runny nose, decongestants for the nasal congestion, and expectorants for chest congestion and cough. We also started our prescription steroid nasal spray to battle the nasal inflammation. From a traditional medical point of view we were doing everything we could, so when these failed to stop us from drowning in our own mucous, the alternative treatments came out.

 

The first non-traditional tool in our arsenal is the neti pot. I firmly believe that the reason my youngest daughter recovered from this malady quicker than the rest of the family was due to her dedication to rinse her sinuses with salt water SIX times a day until she could breath easier. I add small amounts of essential oils to my neti pot salt to help ease congestion and fight infection. My children also prefer a cheap bulb ear syringe to an actual neti pot because it is easier for them to control the flow of water up their noses without drowning themselves.

 

Neti Pot Salt

Mix:

10 drops Eucalyptus globulus essential oil

2 drops Peppermint essential oil

4 drops Oregano essential oil

Into:

8 Tablespoons of kosher or sea salt

 

Store in an airtight container. Dissolve ½ teaspoonful in 1cup warm water and use in neti pot.

 

Any combination of these oils in addition to lavender (which promotes relaxation) can be used in a diffuser or warm mist humidifier to help purify the air and improve breathing throughout the cold season.

 

***While there are many quality brands of oils on the market there are also many of an inferior quality both in purity and effectiveness. I have my personal favorites and would be happy to discuss them. If you are interested in learning more about or purchasing essential oils or any of my blends please contact us via Facebook, Twitter, or by email at Therewillbepancakes@gmail.com.

Christmas · Family

Goodbye, Snowflake!

Friday: Peyton found our Elf on a shelf… Imagine that! She had found a tiny Christmas tree to sit in where she could watch all the goings-on in the family room on the day before Christmas Eve.

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Saturday: We found Snowflake had changed into “party attire” for her trip home to the North Pole with Santa, complete with a fur wrap to keep her warm on the sleigh. Do you think they have a big party when all the elves return home? We do. Snowflake was dressed to the nines for it!!

Sunday: Peyton left Santa a snowflake she had cut out and a note with his milk and cookies (and lettuce and carrots for his reindeer). She wrote: Just for you! We are sad that Snowflake is going away but hope she travels safely.

Santa, after eating his cookies and feeding his reindeer (who strangely left no glitter on the ground this year. Maybe they had used it all up by the time they reached us in South Carolina?), left this reply: I promise to take good care of Snowflake until you see her next year! And just like that, Snowflake was gone.

Family · Food

Menu Monday 12/26/16

Well, it’s the day after Christmas and I think I’m still stuffed from that marvelous meal we had yesterday. But, for your sake, I will try to come up with some good meals for this week. I know everyone is still busy with holiday obligations so we won’t get to fancy with our cooking. There are certain foods that remind my sister and I of our childhood so one day this week we may just forget the menu and eat spinach dip, and bacon-wrapped smokies, and deviled eggs and watch a ball game. But here’s the plan for now.

 

Monday: Christmas leftovers. The day after a holiday is always easy to me. A meal so special that we only serve it once a year deserves to be savored, so don’t mess with a good thing, and we’ll just re-heat tonight.

 

Tuesday: Turkey Spring Rolls. I’m thinking of trying something new this year, and light vegetable laden spring rolls sound lovely after all the heavy food of the holiday. Dipping sauce made with soy sauce, sugar, and ketchup (of all things) will top them off nicely.

 

Wednesday: Tacos, garlic rice, avocados, and pinto beans. After the bacon-wrapped turkey on Christmas Eve and a delicious ham on Christmas Day, followed by two days of savory leftovers, I’m sure everyone is ready for a change of menu. So we’re going with a simple, easy change-of-pace that can be as light as it is quick to prepare.

 

Thursday: Elvis’ Potato Cheese Soup. This is a recipe I will have to share with you later in the week. As I’ve said before, my girls are huge Elvis fans and this was one of his favorite meals. It’s always a winner. Try serving it with giant soft pretzels. Yum!

 

Friday: Naan Bread Pizzas. This one is so simple. Even Wal-Mart carries naan bread now. Everyone gets their own “crust” and we lay out some combination of tomato sauce, Alfredo sauce, pepperoni, bacon, sausage, leftover chicken or turkey, mushrooms, red onion, spinach, diced tomatoes, black olives, and fresh mozzarella cheese. Everyone gets their favorite pizza with no arguments.

Christmas · Family · Movies

Favorite Christmas Movies: Modern Classics

While it seems that many of the best Christmas movies were filmed in the 1940’s, we still seem to have a pretty long list of modern holiday classics. Here are a few of them:

Jingle All the Way: Made in 1996 and starring the unlikely comic combination of Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sinbad, and Phil Hartman. It’s the story of a workaholic father who forgets to buy his son the “hit toy” of the season and then scrambles to make it right by Christmas Eve. Of course the lesson he learns is: “Family is the most important gift of all”.

 

Home Alone: Released in 1990 and starring Macaulay Culkin and Joe Pesci. It’s every mother’s nightmare and every tween’s dream to be left “home alone”. Throw in 2 bumbling crooks and you’ve got a comedy classic.

 

Christmas with the Kranks: Based on the novel Skipping Christmas by John Grisham and starring Tim Allen and Jamie Lee Curtis was released in 2004. Although I preferred the book to the movie it is still highly entertaining even with the over-the-top Tim Allen comedic gags. And the supporting efforts by Dan Akroyd and Dewey from Malcolm in the Middle are reason enough to watch the film.

 

A Christmas Story: Made in 1983 but set in the 1940’s and starring no one notable. It is the source of several immediately recognizable quotes including:

“You’ll shoot your eye out!”

“Fragile” (pronounced fra-jee-lay)

“Oh Fudge!”

“Bumpuses!!!!”

I personally find Ralphie extremely whiny and annoying but it’s one of my husband’s favorite holiday movies and has become a Christmas afternoon tradition.

 

Polar Express: Starring Tom Hanks and released in 2004. A young boy takes a magical train ride to the North Pole on Christmas Eve and learns about the power of friendship and the true meaning of Christmas (if you just believe). It’s worth watching for the “Hot Chocolate” number alone but stick around for the culmination of the heartwarming journey.

 

How the Grinch Stole Christmas: Both the animated TV version from 1966 narrated by Boris Karloff and the “live action” version from 2000 with Jim Carrey starring as the Grinch. The 1966 version is a childhood favorite and the song itself sung by Thurl Ravenscroft is iconic. Don’t miss this one! We had the pleasure of seeing the 2000 version on the big screen this season and “Oh my goodness, it was GREAT!” See my recent “Laughter is the Best Medicine” blog post.

 

 

Christmas · Family

Elf Update 12/23/16

OK, it’s the last “Snowflake Friday” before Christmas! Here’s what our elf, Snowflake, has been up to for the last week:

 

Friday: We found her hanging from the chandelier over our kitchen table. The girls were happy because she brought them an early Christmas gift: Christmas cups!

Saturday: Friday night our elf was very busy and a bit mischievous. She crepe-papered the girls into their rooms and taped herself to the wall in their hallway. Presley was a bit upset but I thought she looked right at home.

Sunday: Saturday Peyton lost a tooth and left it under her pillow for the tooth fairy. Unfortunately she then decided to sleep with her sister. Apparently the tooth fairy could not find her tooth so she caught Snowflake instead and tied her to a chair. Our elf must have needed a lot of dental work. The tooth fairy pulled a few (read: A LOT) of her teeth. Who knew that elf teeth smell like licorice?

Monday: Poor Snowflake must have recovered from her dental experience none the worse for wear. She left the girls some Christmas socks and a present for Peyton’s friend Keylee’s elf Rosie. Peyton took the gift to school for Keylee to take to Rosie. We think it was a new skirt for Christmas. Just guessing because Snowflake had mentioned going clothes shopping with Rosie.

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Tuesday: We woke up this morning to find Snowflake inside a plastic bottle holding a note saying, “Please take me with you!” She had decorated the bottle for Christmas so she could travel with us without risking losing her powers.

Wednesday: We found Snowflake upside down in her travel bottle in the hotel room this morning. She obviously barely made it back before we woke up! She brought the girls some cotton candy “for the road”.

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Thursday: Snowflake has made herself at home at my sister’s house. Peyton found her this morning in one of the fireplace stockings.

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Christmas · Family · Movies

Our Favorite 1940’s Classic Christmas Movies

Does anyone else find it amazing that all of these wonderful classics were filmed in a single decade? In chronological order:

 The Shop Around the Corner: Made in 1940 and starring a very young Jimmy Stewart, Margaret Sullivan and the Wizard of Oz. This is a wonderfully sweet romantic comedy with a lot of star power, but the delivery boy Pepi really steals the show.

Holiday Inn: Made in 1942 and starring Bing Crosby and Fred Astaire. While not entirely a Christmas movie, it does contain the song “White Christmas” written by Irving Berlin especially for the film. What’s more Christmassy than that?

Christmas in Connecticut: Again the original from 1945 with Barbara Stanwick, Sidney Greenstreet, and Dennis Morgan, not the crappy 1990’s remake. Elizabeth Lane’s description of that Thanksgiving dinner from her Smart Housekeeping article makes my mouth water every time and the fact that she can’t even boil water is hilarious. The scenes evoke everyone’s idea of a perfect Christmas and it’s a love story as well. What’s better than that?

It’s a Wonderful Life: Made in 1946 and starring Jimmy Stewart. This is one of my husband’s favorite holiday movies, although he preferred it before NBC bought it and it could be seen on nearly every channel at any time of day up until Christmas. George Bailey epitomizes today’s society in that they are always bemoaning what they don’t have and rarely take the time to be grateful for everything they do have. It’s a wonderful message for a holiday film.

Miracle on 34th Street: The original from 1947 with Maureen O’Hara and Natalie Wood, not the remake. This is my all-time favorite Christmas movie and I like to watch it on Thanksgiving Day after watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. I love to compare this year’s parade to that one in 1947. And it is the ultimate story in the power of believing in what can’t be proven. It is the perfect kick-off for the holiday season.

It Happened on 5th Avenue: Made in 1947 and starring no one you’ve heard of before or since. This is the heartwarming tale of a loveable hobo with a huge heart who moves into a mansion on 5th Avenue every winter when the family moves south to avoid the New York City weather. And how he ends up sheltering a group of Veterans and their families and unwittingly plays host to the estranged members of the family in whose home he is “squatting”. Somehow it all has a happy ending.

The Bishop’s Wife: Again, the original made in 1947 starring Loretta Young and one of my personal favorite’s, Cary Grant. Who can resist Cary Grant playing an angel and the awesome (ha-ha!) “special effects”? However, the remake starring Whitney Houston and Denzel Washington made in 1996 is not a bad substitute.  

Holiday Affair: Made in 1949 and starring Robert Mitchum and Janet Leigh. Who would have thought that the villain from the original Cape Fear and the victim from one of the best psychological thrillers (Psycho) could make such an entertaining romantic couple?

Family · Travel

Darkness

Sorry that we’ve gone dark for the last few days, but we’ve been traveling for the holidays. We had intended to write and schedule a handful of posts to cover us while we were on the road, but shopping and baking and packing and watching Christmas movies got in the way. Before we knew it, we were in the car and on our way, without a single post for our faithful readers to enjoy this week. We’re hoping, in the spirit of the Christmas holidays, that you can find it in your hearts to forgive us!

 

Family · Food

Menu Monday 12/19

Christmas week is finally here and I know everyone is busy. I hope that maybe this menu will provide some inspiration for some quick and easy meals this week.

 

Monday: Bean and cheese burritos enchilada style. This is one of our go-to EASY dinners: a can of refried beans, a bag of shredded cheese, tortillas, and a can of enchilada sauce. Add a package of Mexican rice and some sour cream to top off the burritos and you have a great meal.

 

Tuesday: Chicken Spaghetti Casserole. We make ours with Alfredo sauce and a can of Rotel plus rotisserie chicken (or even canned chicken in a pinch). Add a salad and some good rolls and dinner is done! I always make two of these, one to eat and one to freeze so today is easy. I’ll just defrost my spare.

 

Wednesday: Chef’s Salad. We’ve got to get the refrigerator cleaned out before we leave for Christmas and my produce drawer is full. So I’ll boil a couple of eggs and use up the lunchmeat and cheese over lettuce, carrots, cucumbers, mushrooms, and whatever else I come across.

 

Thursday: Fried Rice and Egg Drop Soup. I’ll just sauté up whatever veggies we have remaining in the produce drawer, add the last of the ham and a scrambled egg. I’ll stir that into 2 cups of cooked rice and season with soy sauce and Shanghai seasoning. The last of my green onions will top off the egg drop soup.

 

Friday: Vegetable beef soup. Start with a pound of ground beef or venison and add 3-4 potatoes, a few diced carrots and celery stalks and the last onion. Homemade beef stock out of the freezer makes it easy to finish.

We wish you a Merry Christmas from our family to yours. No matter how big or how small, family is still family and I hope you find a way to be with yours during this holiday season.